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saharmuse's avatar

insecurity and vulnerability are almost brothers. we can't expect to be the centre of someone's universe, but we do anyways. you're there-- don't tell him not to feel that way. remind him who he is. remind him of how you see him, remind him of himself outside of her. that is all our friends need from us.

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Kate O. Digon's avatar

Insecurity is hot. It means you are human.

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NiaBia47's avatar

This feels like a conversation with yourself. But more so to that soft Bambi part of yourself. I really liked this piece.

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Joanna's avatar

That is my impression as well, like an inner self conversation. Anyway, I love it

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Velina Welch's avatar

As for your friend....please be patient with him. Some of us can't help what we feel and we follow our hearts. There was a time that I was closed off...but not anymore! I opened my heart again & I choose to follow it!

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lola's avatar

loved the content, loved the writing...loved it. Spain (home) as the location makes it even better. I can picture the scene so clearly...and I related quite a lot too. to you, not J. I don't know which one's best. anyway, loved it.

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Irene's avatar

The thing is that nowadays you always think you can have something more or better or both.

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Shanna's avatar

I love reading what you write but feel stupid sometimes because I have to look up words that I have never heard or saw. At my age I feel pretty ignorant. Lol

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Parveen Bhinder's avatar

Insecurities we all have them. Love, acceptance, understanding and support is what we need from our friends ❤️

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Sonal Naik's avatar

🧿

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Roxs's avatar

The "hell of a drug" part reminds me of the Dave Chapelle skit. Still works tho. Love it

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roz's avatar

"I am just trying to feel something and at the moment the feeling I’m after is the sacrosanct self righteousness of a man speaking without actually knowing what the fuck he is talking about. Masculinity is a hell of a drug." my favorite part. as someone who is a woman (mostly? idk i don't really identify with that word but that is how i'm viewed in the world) sometimes i wish i could embody that feeling. it's shitty but also invigorating.

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Roni's avatar

Hi Avan,

I do not know why I keep returning to this blog, but I think your writing is compelling.

I had no idea who "Avan Jogia" was until I saw you in a yoga class in L. A and you were the only one there I could relate to.). Anyway... I wish you well on your journeys and hope you are not stuck in a dimbos loop world or perhaps fuck boy in training? I am sure it's just a phase.)

All yours

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Chelcie's avatar

what do you mean by tertiary in this context, like superfluous? I've never seen it used in this way before

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Jonny Franklin's avatar

Being vulnerable and insecure makes you human. I loved this I agree both sides

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rows chin's avatar

am kinda sad after reading this hahaha

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Raven Simone E.'s avatar

I feel J's struggle. Dating just sucks and it makes you feel insecure and when your vulnerable about how you feel, people see that as a weakness. When you have such an open heart and you want to see the best in people, this world is near impossible to navigate. There are people out there. You just have to swim through many rivers of bullshit and sometimes you can get lost at sea. But one day you will find home.

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