I have failed. I am back on instagram and what’s worst my screen is way up from before. The tiny black box has its onyx talons in me once again. Glowing and murmuring with some unknown hypnotic magic (dopamine response exploitation.) “I need the phone, cause I
It’s hard to get away from things like social media in our time. I wouldn’t be as hard on yourself as it appears. Though I completely understand and admirer the holding yourself accountable. More people need to do that. I cannot wait to add another book of yours to myself and I look forward to what conversations it may start with those I know and how it may challenge my thinking. Best of luck! 🖤
Don’t be too hard on yourself. We all should try to limit the use of our phones. I’m on Twitter all day but that’s because I like to stay updated on the world, good or bad. Your IG presence is appreciated and looking forward to the new book!
Wow, I admire the ways in which you can talk openly about yourself to those of us who follow you, that's a great person, I actually admire more things about you than you can imagine!
I think we all make promises to ourselves and others that we don't keep and that's completely normal.
The part where you describe yourself as a tousled person who is writing in a coffee shop, I turned it into a scene in my mind and let me tell you that this is the description of a unique person, you have so many things that really make you so special, haven't you noticed?
On the other hand, cell phones and social networks are definitely not bad, it all depends on how we use them.
Hiya, I googled you because I fell in love with your film “Door Mouse” and, as I often do, when a special Work Of Art really hits me- I wanted to contact the writer and director to congratulate him! Yeah, that was the plan… then I found out who you actually were. I have to say I was quite dumbstruck, to say the least.
I had thought I would find myself on the website of an indie filmmaker on his way to stardom -
well, ...
“Hope springs eternal, though”, I thought, and stubbornly sent you an Instagram message. Of course, you didn't read it...why would you?
Yeah, that’s me mastering the internet and apologising for my English, I’m Austrian.
Anyway, what I want to say about this text:
It's incredibly honest. But you're pretty hard on yourself, Avan.
That you waste a shitload of life time on the internet lies in the nature of things. For your generation, the mobile has mutated from a technical device to an additional extremity. I have a 29-year-old daughter, I know what I'm talking about.
And you're a obviously very busy working as an actor, writer, musician and filmmaker. Of course your phone is part of your very beeing.
And trust me, you're definitely not the only talented artist who makes resolutions and promises on the internet he can't, or won't, keep (there's a very fine line between the two), and then feels the need to explain or apologise in a way that doesn't make him look like a complete fucking twat.
Of course, it's easy for people like me to say this because I'm not a famous person whose career can barely survive these days without a permanent presence on social media platforms and who therefore becomes fair game under the constant pressure of being watched and judged. But I'm serious, chill out love, you do a pretty decent job of staying approachable to your admirers as far as I can tell from your posts on Instagram, this forum etc.!
I often get announcements from colleagues and friends about projects that never see the light of day, world-changing ideas that perish in the erratic minds of artists, and plans about regular blog posts, that – like here - suddenly cease. These are often followed by pages of highly poetic and philosophical explanations, justifications and the like.
But, fair enough, that's how artists work, don’t they.
Indeed, I'm all the same. I fucking hate social media. Not the smartest approach for a photographer and writer, I know. Apart from that, I am not and was not dependent on the internet either.
But that´s a different story.
So, not long ago I've been victoriously proclaiming my farewell to Twitter, Instagram, etc. to the world, only to remove all content but maintain the accounts to stay in touch with friends, colleagues abroad and the outside world. Well, at least I was able to convince myself of this subterfuge to the point where I actually believed it.
However, I genuinely rarely write active posts. I most definitely prefer to communicate by writing complete sentences or talking to people.
Because, let’s face it, the internet is a fucking dive.
So, one needs to be careful how far one chooses to throw oneself out there. You have to do it to a certain extent, for the sake of your career, fair enough, but no one can or should hold it against you that sometimes you just want to live your life. Please quit blaming yourself for that.
Your failure is relatable. There is a button that is an "i" inside a circle that appears when you keep pressing on the Instagram app. There is the option to limit your time there. It's helpful. And it reminds you of when your time is about to end.
I did that and failed. But for various days it helped me. I'll do it again. We deserve to live.
A word eventually meets your gaze, that very gaze that lies within the depths of your heart. We need to read. We need this kind of system to get us thinking. Deliver the resistance to exclude yourself from what all of us fail to delete from our lives. We are here, in the now and the one word that you put out into the world has profound effects. Don’t be consumed too much about how you feel knowing that you didn’t keep to your own word. Maybe, perhaps, your word needs to be broken in order to uplift the rest of us.
There are timer function on phones that ring, widgets and many other tools to limit screen time for anything, slowly moving away from gadgets makes them available only for utility. Social media is not wrong if used according to personal requirement rather than wants. As for Instagram, just disconnect the phone to internet connection which could be your wifi or data or set internet MB usage limits in your phone settings. I wish you a beautiful journey on use or no use of internet and its mediums.
I also hope you keep writing your thoughts and writings here makes for a sweet and small community of genuine readers. (English is not my first language so do excuse my mistakes if any (; -_- ) )
Kind of late to the comments but as everyone else's been saying, please don't beat yourself up! I share the ideal of not wanting to be on socials or my phone much, but it's hard not to when you also use your phone for productivity. I think what's more important than whether or not you use your phone is being *mindful* of the media you intake. How does it make you feel? Does it add value to your life in any way? (no matter how minuscule) And even how could you modify what you see to better serve you? Just food for thought. You're doing great and I can't wait for your new book, it'll be just as much of a masterpiece as Mixed Feelings is.
Congratulations on your book! Don’t beat yourself up about returning to IG, we do love seeing you there. Just try to cut back a little at a time, and definitely take a break if you get anxious or depressed.
It’s hard to get away from things like social media in our time. I wouldn’t be as hard on yourself as it appears. Though I completely understand and admirer the holding yourself accountable. More people need to do that. I cannot wait to add another book of yours to myself and I look forward to what conversations it may start with those I know and how it may challenge my thinking. Best of luck! 🖤
Don’t be too hard on yourself. We all should try to limit the use of our phones. I’m on Twitter all day but that’s because I like to stay updated on the world, good or bad. Your IG presence is appreciated and looking forward to the new book!
Wow, I admire the ways in which you can talk openly about yourself to those of us who follow you, that's a great person, I actually admire more things about you than you can imagine!
I think we all make promises to ourselves and others that we don't keep and that's completely normal.
The part where you describe yourself as a tousled person who is writing in a coffee shop, I turned it into a scene in my mind and let me tell you that this is the description of a unique person, you have so many things that really make you so special, haven't you noticed?
On the other hand, cell phones and social networks are definitely not bad, it all depends on how we use them.
Are you going to write more?
Hiya, I googled you because I fell in love with your film “Door Mouse” and, as I often do, when a special Work Of Art really hits me- I wanted to contact the writer and director to congratulate him! Yeah, that was the plan… then I found out who you actually were. I have to say I was quite dumbstruck, to say the least.
I had thought I would find myself on the website of an indie filmmaker on his way to stardom -
well, ...
“Hope springs eternal, though”, I thought, and stubbornly sent you an Instagram message. Of course, you didn't read it...why would you?
Yeah, that’s me mastering the internet and apologising for my English, I’m Austrian.
Anyway, what I want to say about this text:
It's incredibly honest. But you're pretty hard on yourself, Avan.
That you waste a shitload of life time on the internet lies in the nature of things. For your generation, the mobile has mutated from a technical device to an additional extremity. I have a 29-year-old daughter, I know what I'm talking about.
And you're a obviously very busy working as an actor, writer, musician and filmmaker. Of course your phone is part of your very beeing.
And trust me, you're definitely not the only talented artist who makes resolutions and promises on the internet he can't, or won't, keep (there's a very fine line between the two), and then feels the need to explain or apologise in a way that doesn't make him look like a complete fucking twat.
Of course, it's easy for people like me to say this because I'm not a famous person whose career can barely survive these days without a permanent presence on social media platforms and who therefore becomes fair game under the constant pressure of being watched and judged. But I'm serious, chill out love, you do a pretty decent job of staying approachable to your admirers as far as I can tell from your posts on Instagram, this forum etc.!
I often get announcements from colleagues and friends about projects that never see the light of day, world-changing ideas that perish in the erratic minds of artists, and plans about regular blog posts, that – like here - suddenly cease. These are often followed by pages of highly poetic and philosophical explanations, justifications and the like.
But, fair enough, that's how artists work, don’t they.
Indeed, I'm all the same. I fucking hate social media. Not the smartest approach for a photographer and writer, I know. Apart from that, I am not and was not dependent on the internet either.
But that´s a different story.
So, not long ago I've been victoriously proclaiming my farewell to Twitter, Instagram, etc. to the world, only to remove all content but maintain the accounts to stay in touch with friends, colleagues abroad and the outside world. Well, at least I was able to convince myself of this subterfuge to the point where I actually believed it.
However, I genuinely rarely write active posts. I most definitely prefer to communicate by writing complete sentences or talking to people.
Because, let’s face it, the internet is a fucking dive.
So, one needs to be careful how far one chooses to throw oneself out there. You have to do it to a certain extent, for the sake of your career, fair enough, but no one can or should hold it against you that sometimes you just want to live your life. Please quit blaming yourself for that.
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Failed? You're Joging! Impostible...
Your failure is relatable. There is a button that is an "i" inside a circle that appears when you keep pressing on the Instagram app. There is the option to limit your time there. It's helpful. And it reminds you of when your time is about to end.
I did that and failed. But for various days it helped me. I'll do it again. We deserve to live.
A word eventually meets your gaze, that very gaze that lies within the depths of your heart. We need to read. We need this kind of system to get us thinking. Deliver the resistance to exclude yourself from what all of us fail to delete from our lives. We are here, in the now and the one word that you put out into the world has profound effects. Don’t be consumed too much about how you feel knowing that you didn’t keep to your own word. Maybe, perhaps, your word needs to be broken in order to uplift the rest of us.
if only instagram was that nice again like 10 years ago... it would not be that painful. congrats on your new book!
There are timer function on phones that ring, widgets and many other tools to limit screen time for anything, slowly moving away from gadgets makes them available only for utility. Social media is not wrong if used according to personal requirement rather than wants. As for Instagram, just disconnect the phone to internet connection which could be your wifi or data or set internet MB usage limits in your phone settings. I wish you a beautiful journey on use or no use of internet and its mediums.
I also hope you keep writing your thoughts and writings here makes for a sweet and small community of genuine readers. (English is not my first language so do excuse my mistakes if any (; -_- ) )
Volta o cão arrependido
Com suas orelhas tão fartas
Com seu osso roído
E com o rabo entre as patas
Very interested
Very interested
Why not just set it on a timer: give yourself 15, 30 minutes? Then 10, then 5.
Kind of late to the comments but as everyone else's been saying, please don't beat yourself up! I share the ideal of not wanting to be on socials or my phone much, but it's hard not to when you also use your phone for productivity. I think what's more important than whether or not you use your phone is being *mindful* of the media you intake. How does it make you feel? Does it add value to your life in any way? (no matter how minuscule) And even how could you modify what you see to better serve you? Just food for thought. You're doing great and I can't wait for your new book, it'll be just as much of a masterpiece as Mixed Feelings is.
Congratulations on your book! Don’t beat yourself up about returning to IG, we do love seeing you there. Just try to cut back a little at a time, and definitely take a break if you get anxious or depressed.